BONUS: Parenting Roadmap - Natalie Interview

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Welcome to the Parenting

Roadmap Private Podcast.

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I'm Erica Voell, a confidence

and wellbeing coach, and a

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certified human design guide.

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Okay.

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These short supportive episodes are

here to help you understand how you

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and your kid are wired, and how human

design can bring more confidence

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and connection into your parenting.

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Today's episode's a little

different because you're not

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going to just hear from me.

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You're going to hear from one of

my clients who used human design to

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understand her family in a whole new

way, and we talk about how learning

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her own design and the designs of her

partner and kids shifted everything

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from communication to expectations

to how she supports her people.

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I you will love hearing her story

and how things shifted in her family

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and for herself in our work together.

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Welcome Natalie to the

Parenting Roadmap podcast.

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Thanks, Erica.

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I'm super excited to be here.

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So.

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So before you learned human design,

what was parenting and family

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life like for you day to day?

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Well, we are a family that's

together all the time.

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We are a ranching family.

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We all work our, uh, business together.

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I homeschool my kids.

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So we spend every day, almost

every moment together kind

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of learning how to cooperate.

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And before I learned about human design.

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I just thought like the parenting

struggles that I was having were just

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communication gaps that happened, you

know, as my boys were getting older

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and, we of course had our conflicts.

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I'm a very busy person.

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I like to just get stuff done and I have a

youngest that we would call the resistor.

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Um, because I felt like it was always

a big ordeal to get him to do the

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things that we needed to do in the

timeframe that we needed to do them.

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So that was always a little bit of

a rib in our family where we had

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expectations and they weren't always

being able to be met by everybody.

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So I know that there were a big

few, there were a few big aha

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moments in our work together.

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So what stands out for you

in, during our sessions?

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I think the biggest thing was.

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For me, identifying who I was as a

generator and then learning about my

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kids and my partner, two of which

are projectors and just learning that

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we don't operate in the same way.

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Like I am a hundred percent on the

go all day long and I have two humans

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in my house that need their rest

and they need to be like invited.

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And especially with my youngest, the

resistor, I realized that he wasn't just.

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Not doing the things that I wanted him

to do, and I wanted them, wanted him to

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do them out of rebellion or disrespect.

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It was that he wasn't getting enough

downtime in his day and that I

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really needed to ask him to come and

participate in his own unique way

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to be helpful, not just like this

is the chore that we have to do.

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So once I learned who we

all were in a different way.

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I was able to respectfully like

meet each person where they were.

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And it has exponentially lightened

like the stress load and the

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communication barriers that we had.

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, I do feel like our house is

just a lot more peaceful now

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than it had been in the past.

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Oh, I love that.

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So can you share an example of how

knowing your kid or your partner's

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human design changed how you

interact or communicate with them?

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Yeah, so I'm, I mean, I

think the biggest win that.

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I've had through, this is my youngest,

so I'm gonna speak to my projector

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child,, because my older son is

a manifesting generator, so he is

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able to run at the speed that I am.

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He's also able to multitask a

lot better than I can, which is

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always very confusing for me.

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I could never understand how he

could be eating his cereal, doing

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his schoolwork with an open book

next to him that he was also reading

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while holding conversation with me.

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And be able to absorb any of it.

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But I've learned that

that's just how he operates.

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, but my youngest, the conversation

has changed a lot because instead of

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me being like, we have to go clean

the barn, that's what we have to do.

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And it's the next thing on our list.

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I'll say, youngest, you are really

good at taking really good care

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of Pete, our horse, and I know

that he wants to see you today.

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Can you come down and be in charge of.

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Getting peed in and getting

him brushed and making sure

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he settled in for the night.

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And like him having that specific task

that is for him only because he's really

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good at it, makes him feel like he's not

just maybe a part of like the operation,

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but he is an individual that is doing

his part to keep everything running.

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And also I noticed that.

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He and my husband both have moments

where they just zone out and

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completely disappear from the world,

and it's almost like they pull

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their invisibility cloak over them.

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And before that used to really frustrate

me because I'd be like, stop ignoring me.

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I know that you hear my voice,

I'm trying to talk to you.

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And now I look, can look at him and

say, oh, you are just like getting

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your little rest in and that's gonna

help you be able to do the next

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good thing that you're gonna do.

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And so I've stopped taking offense to

the midday naps or like the really long

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reads where nobody's listening to me and

I've been able to recognize them as part

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of what they need to do similarly to

like why I have to get on the couch at

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the end of the night when the kitchen's

done because I'm just exhausted.

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And that's like my end of the day treat.

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Oh, this is just makes my heart flutter.

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So what shifted for you when you

started working with your design?

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Oh man, so much.

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I think that's been the biggest

eyeopener for me is that I'm a big

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ideas person and I've always just

been like eternally optimistic.

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Well, I shouldn't say always.

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I was born eternally optimistic, and

then I went through a big long phase

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of people telling me that I couldn't be

that person and that I couldn't believe

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in like a greater outcome or, you know,

even like my faith and my connection with

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Mother Nature and the universe and all

of those things being intertwined was

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so like too whimsical and my optimism

was naivety and all of those things.

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And after working with you and

like learning that that is.

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Exactly who I am.

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Mm-hmm.

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Gives me so much authority to

just continue to spread like

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that positivity and light.

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Not because I'm naive or hope that

that's the way things are gonna

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turn out, but that's just my role.

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Mm-hmm.

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In like the human race here.

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And that has brought so much joy because

learning to trust my gut and like knowing

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that, when I have that feeling that comes

in, that I can trust it and trust myself,

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and that when I feel the resistance of

somebody asking me to do something, or

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even me asking me to do something that I

just don't want to do, I can trust myself.

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And I just feel so much more

centered and balanced in knowing

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that like I'm on the right path,

even when it's completely different

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than anything I had ever expected.

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It's definitely the way that

I'm supposed to be walking.

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And that's been, that gives

me all the heart flutters.

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Just a note for listeners, we are on

Natalie's farm and you might hear,

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her dog in the background who has

a very, it's snoring very loudly,

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so we're, we're really in it today.

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So was there anything about the process

working together that surprised you or

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felt different than what you expected?

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Um, I wasn't expecting to feel so

emotional about really learning

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the ins and outs of like the

intricacies of human design.

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'cause when I first heard about you

on another podcast, I immediately

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went and like, took my test and I

looked at the things and I was like,

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oh, this all makes total sense.

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And I felt pretty content

with that information.

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But then when you and I started working

together and you know, you took me into

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a deep dive on what everything really

meant and still things I'm trying to

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understand, but the channels and all of

that, um, it just makes a lot more sense

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to me now when I interact with people.

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I feel like certain connections with

certain people or even this season of my

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life, like how you explained that I'm, you

know, like in an education and learning

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season, that now every time those things

appear, I'm like, oh, that's because

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this is exactly where I'm supposed to be.

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So I wasn't expecting quite as much

alignment as I'm experiencing now.

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I also wasn't expecting to feel so

emotional about it, like just, but knowing

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that I knew who I was when I was younger.

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And now like allowing that

full self to be here today.

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That has been,, definitely its own

little healing journey in itself.

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It's, it's can be an intense process.

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Yes, it has been.

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Yeah.

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But a good one.

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Yeah.

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So what made human design

really click for you once we

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started digging into your chart?

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I think when we brought in,

because I'm a all in learner, so

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you were talking, I was learning.

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I also asked a million questions

and I think when we brought in the

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family component and I was able to

not only use what I know for myself

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and how I operate and how that

can create some resistance with my

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people, , but then just kind of blending

everything that I've learned from you.

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And allowing myself to be

just a much better mother.

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I'm just so content now with being

able to communicate with my kids and my

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husband, and that has just brought so

much joy because I just always thought,

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well, this kid is just like this.

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Mm-hmm.

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And this is who he is.

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And I was stubborn growing up

and maybe he's just stubborn too.

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And I've taken, you know, the

negative connotations out of the.

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Communication barriers

that we were having.

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And I've started honoring who my kids are

as individuals and through their design.

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And it's just been so much more playful.

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'cause I'm like, oh, this is just you

doing your octopus thing where you can

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do 87,000 things at once and I can't.

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And that's okay and good for you.

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Can you also do the dishes

with one of your hands?

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You know, it just has made it, um, a

lot more playful to be a family again.

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Mm-hmm.

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Yeah.

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And you are really where I

started to see this come alive.

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Like I had done it within my own family,

but seeing it with another client and then

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you would say, oh, I, I recognized this.

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And we, when we would meet and I was

like, oh, there is something to this.

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That's what I really love.

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So what would you say to a parent

who's just getting started with

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human design and feeling a little

overwhelmed or unsure about this?

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Yeah, so I, as a, as part of my

design, I love to share everything

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that I'm learning as I'm learning it.

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And I've had a lot of experiences and

conversations with other moms that I

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homeschool with, especially because,

you know, we spend so much time with

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our kids that it is really important to

be able to like, communicate and work

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effectively, especially on sticky things

like kids that don't wanna do school.

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And so.

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When I first started learning about

this, we were talking about our own

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designs and who we were, and then I

started sharing my experiences with

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how, diving into the kids has really

allowed me to grow as a parent, which is

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really, you know, very important to us.

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And.

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I think for somebody who is just getting

started and feeling overwhelmed, I

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would say just start with the basics.

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Like just take the surface level

stuff and just try to apply

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one little nugget at a time.

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Because I tried to go into the channels

and the emotional authorities and

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all of that with the boys, and I was

like, no, I just need to recognize

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like these very, like the things, our

sticky points are the things that I need

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to be able to recognize and resolve.

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First and then after I can like

do that without any thought or

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any changes in my behavior, then

maybe we can go to the next level.

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I think knowing all of those things

about yourself are really important.

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And then, you know, once you can really

peel back the layers of your kids and

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your partner, probably your partner

and then your kids, then um, it starts

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to not feel quite so overwhelming.

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Well, thank you, Natalie.

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This has been such a pleasure and I know

so many parents will love hearing your

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story and hear themselves in your story.

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And just a quick reminder, the

parenting roadmap, PDF and the booking

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link for a free intro session are

in the show notes if you need them.

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Thank you for joining me

today, and thank you, Natalie.

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Thank you.