What not to do...
Remember that show What Not to Wear? Well… I used to do the coaching equivalent: try to give people their entire Human Design chart in one session. But what I’ve learned—through coaching, practice, and my own design—is that real transformation doesn’t come from a firehose of info. It comes from the right insight at the right time.
In this episode, I’m sharing why I’ve restructured how I work with clients, how your Human Design is meant to unfold over time, and what I’ve been creating behind the scenes that I’m so excited to share.
Listen in if…
– You’ve ever felt overwhelmed by too much too fast
– You’re craving a slower, more grounded way to learn
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Transcript
Welcome back to Unfolding.
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:I'm Erica Voell, a confidence
and wellbeing coach and a
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:certified human design guide.
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:And I work with women so that they
can say no to what drains them because
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:they learn to trust their decisions
and understand their unique strengths.
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:Together we clear old patterns and
they learn how they're designed
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:to make confident decisions and
start putting themselves first.
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:Because I believe your human design
is your roadmap and your permission to
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:do things differently and confidently.
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:So let's get into today's episode.
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:Do you remember that show "What Not
to Wear" from the early two:
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:On this show, there was Stacey
and Clinton, and they would do
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:a big makeover of someone who
dressed how they really wanted to.
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:And honestly, I think they made the
guests look more frumpy than normal.
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:And there's a part of me that loved
it, and there was a part of me that
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:absolutely hated the show because I
saw myself in so many of those people.
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:And the guests were overwhelmed
with the clothes that they "should"
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:wear and the hairstyle that
they suddenly had to maintain.
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:And it was usually pretty obvious
that there was an underlying mental
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:health issue for a lot of the guests.
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:I couldn't help but think of this
show as I was starting to write
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:this podcast episode because.
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:If you ambush people with information
too quickly, it doesn't resonate.
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:I mean, think of your first day on the job
or the first day of a new class, and the
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:teacher's telling you everything you need.
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:You need to learn or you're going
to learn over that semester, and you
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:feel your brain melting from that.
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:Too much information.
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:And that describes how sometimes I get
so caught up in sharing about human
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:design that I actually overwhelm people.
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:So recently I was giving a human design
reading at a retreat, and about halfway
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:through one of the other retreat hosts
who was sitting there said to the person
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:I was reading for, is that too much?
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:Is this too much information?
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:And I paused because she was not wrong.
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:I love going so deep and I was going
deeper than I normally do in a first
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:reading, but the person was asking such
thoughtful and engaging questions that I
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:was just trusting the moment and going
with it, not realizing how much deeper I
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:had gone and how I was overwhelming her.
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:So it really reminded me how
much I love sharing human design.
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:But I can give you too much information.
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:But I also love those aha moments
that land really deep for people.
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:And I've noticed it's actually
why people choose to work with me.
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:They're ready to go deep.
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:They want transformation.
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:They don't want just surface level tips.
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:They don't want a reading that
they're gonna forget in two hours.
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:They want to use this in their life.
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:In human design.
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:I'm a 5 /1 profile, which is a.
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:Problem- solver, and investigator,
and when I am lit up about something,
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:I can go so deep into a rabbit hole
that you might not see me for days.
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:I'm really designed to help people
solve problems and uncover patterns,
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:especially the ones quietly draining
their energy or loudly running the
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:show and how I'm supposed to ground
myself, which is my Gate 35 in my chart.
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:That's part of the throat center.
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:It's all about sharing what I've
learned through lived experience.
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:Just ask my family.
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:I love sharing what I'm learning.
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:I'll tell you about an article I've read.
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:I'll tell you about a show I've watched.
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:I'll tell you about a YouTube video.
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:I've watched and I can sometimes see my
daughter's eyes rolling into the back
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:of our head 'cause she's like, oh gosh.
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:More from mom.
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:So here's a challenge that I have
learned to navigate as a coach.
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:Transformation doesn't happen
through information overload.
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:It actually happens at the right
time with the right insight, but
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:also integration and allowing people
to take it in as they're ready.
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:So I've really restructured how I
work with clients several times.
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:I used to do these one hour sessions.
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:They were totally packed with information.
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:We would talk about as many parts
of the chart as I could possibly
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:fit in in an hour or an hour and a
half, because I wanted everybody to
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:get the most bang for their buck.
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:And I also noticed about 40 minutes
in that there would be this eye
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:glaze that would happen, and I would
notice that I was losing my clients.
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:So as I've started to develop my coaching
practice, I realized I had to take a
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:longer term relationship, take it over
time, and that allowed us to go deep,
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:but not in one hour info dump, where
the client left feeling completely
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:overwhelmed and had no idea how to
apply human design to their real life.
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:So now my sessions are eight sessions,
so they're getting eight hours.
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:In addition to other content that
I provide between our sessions.
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:And that's why I think I have fallen
in love with sharing through private
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:podcasts and personalized audio lessons.
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:'cause you can take them as you're ready.
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:They're thoughtful, they're self-paced,
and then they give you the space
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:to let things sink in, and they
meet you exactly where you are.
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:And if you need to listen on repeat, you
can listen on repeat because a lot of us
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:learn by listening over and over and over.
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:So as it turns out, I'm actually sharing
the way I'm designed to work, and there'll
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:be more coming soon on something I
have been working on behind the scenes.
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:And so for now, I will
leave you with this.
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:You are not too much.
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:You are not behind.
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:You are exactly where you're meant to be.
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:You are ready for what you
need now and when you're ready
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:to go deeper, I've got you.
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:You can book an intro
coaching call with me.
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:Just visit my website or click
the link in the show notes below.
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:Thanks for joining me.
